Friday, September 10, 2010

Drainage Systems

            Colicky kids are draining.
            Little three-month-old Joshua has been wailing for three days straight now. He takes short breaks during the day to nap and eat, then goes right back into the cries. When I came home from the office yesterday Michelle looked wiped out. She said to me, “I feel like I’ve aged ten years in the last two days.”
            I looked her in the eyes and said, “Don’t worry. You’ll get it back.”
            But it doesn’t change the fact that it’s hard to hear a crying child all day long, thinking, wondering, pondering whether there’s any possible solution that will help. We’ve now tried over a dozen recommendations and hypotheses. Maybe one or two of them will kick in by today. I hope so.
            The odd thing is that, although the crying drains Michelle during the day, we’re both getting our sleep at night. Celia has slept more the last two nights than I’ve ever known her to – twelve hours last night and eleven-and-a-half the night before. I wonder if she’s growing an extra inch or something.
            Joshua’s doing well with sleep too. I’m amazed to say that he sleeps for eight or nine hours before his first feeding, sometime between 3am and 4am. What a blessing! I wonder if it’s because he’s so worn out from all the crying.
            When Celia was his age she woke up every two to four hours for her feedings. But even getting our rest isn’t going to help Michelle with the colicky situation. Not only is she listening to the cries all day long, she’s a woman.
            No offense to women, but I think a part of their heart breaks every time they hear their child cry in pain. For us guys, sure it bothers us, but we can sort of compartmentalize it into the “issues” box, and not let it bother us deep down. If Michelle weren’t around I could see myself just popping in the earplugs and letting him get the cries out of his system. Not her. Every cry is like a hammer chiseling away at her heart.
            When I look at Michelle’s energy drainage system, I don’t think she’s got a lot left. She’s running on empty already. What’s below that? I suppose that’s when people break down. We’d better make sure that doesn’t happen. I’ll try to give her a break from both kids tomorrow, if I can. And maybe, if things get too bad, I’ll dig out some earplugs.

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